DON’T TELL ME WHAT TO DO!

January 6, 2009 at 9:06 am 1 comment

 

DON’T tell me what to do! HECK, don’t even suggest an alternative way!  I don’t care what a different way might be! There are four hundred approaches to everything. Don’t advise me!  I have had it up to my eyebrows with all the people in my life who think they have a better way to do EVERYTHING. Ya know what? I don’t CARE if there’s another way to do it. I’ve chosen my own way, and the only time I want you to tell me how I could do something a different way is IF I ASK YOU! 

In 2008 I finally got a hold on marvelous thing:  I don’t need anybody else’s approval in order to be happy. I have learned to separate myself from the bad moods and foul tempers of other people. Yes…LEARNED. It takes lots of practice. Or it did for me, anyway. And, can I just tell you??  It’s a good thing! It’s a skill that is wrought in trial. Nothing gets me DISGUSTED faster than listening to someone explain to me that the way I have done something, or they way I’m about to do something– is not as good as the way they would have done something.  Oh, that really gets my goat. If you wanna get mad and stomp off and pout—GO FOR IT! That doesn’t bother me nearly like it used to.

 

For example: There are so many ways to drive to any location. If I’m driving, LET ME DRIVE! Don’t tell me what way makes more sense. Just let me drive, and shut up!  If I’m cooking: Let me cook.  If I’m painting, let ME paint. If I’m folding clothes, don’t tell me how to fold! (Yes people!)  If everything has to be done YOUR WAY, then YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU DO IT!

 

I also have a frightfully low tolerance for anybody who tries to make me feel guilty about anything. That drives me absolutely NUTS! Makes me want to run at a full gallop away from you! I hate it when people try to manipulate me with guilt. HATE IT! DESPiiiiiiiSE IT! Or try to make me feel sorry for them!  (Boy, are you barkin’ up the wrong tree!) Or make me feel like I’m not a good enough friend because I failed to meet their expectations. *Ohhhhhh no!* Could it be that your expectations are RIDICULOUS?

 

I’m on a roll here: What else infuriates me?

Ohhhh—PEOPLE WHO DON’T DISPLAY COMMON COURTESY! There is NO excuse for that. NONE! If I can do it, so can everybody else. I am a very smiley, friendly sorta gal. And therefore, I know very well, that LOTS of people can’t even return a smile. And, drive-through window people who seem to hate their job? Be glad I’m not your boss. I would be a very tough manager. In my mind, if you can’t be friendly and cheerful, and check your personal baggage at the door…Then YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU’RE OUT! Get a job where you don’t have to interface with the public! Because the public shouldn’t have to interface with YOU.  I have actually asked the girl at the Taco Bell, “Do you not like your job?”  Naturally I waited ‘til I had my order safely inside my car BEFORE I said that. Otherwise she might have spat upon my food.

 

VIVA LA DIFFERENCE, PEOPLE! WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT. Healthy relationships are made up of people who get along well, and who respect the ideas of others, and respect the individuality of others. If you can only be friends with someone who is your puppet, who does everything you tell ‘em to do every time you crook your little finger…you’d better look for a spineless, “yes-man” type of person.  I can’t help you, because people who agree with everything I say…When you know they don’t, make me mental, too. Have an opinion already!   And don’t give me a hard time if I happen to have, *gasp!*, a DIFFERENT idea from yours! It’s okay! Really, it is! Don’t say you agree with me if you don’t! But whatever you do….DON’T TELL ME WHAT TO DO!

 

Okay…what drives YOU nuts? Chime in!

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1 Comment Add your own

  • 1. Dena  |  January 6, 2009 at 8:17 pm

    As a fellow smiley person, I have to agree that lots of people seem rather put off with life in general. It makes me sad for them.

    I also have a huge issue with someone telling me how to do something. I remember my former mother-in-law (who is generally wonderful, I might add) stated one time that she “used to wad up” the clothes like that as she watched me fold. What? Please! It was 10 years ago, and it still makes me crazy.

    And to add to your list….one thing that makes me completely nuts is when I make a statement about something I’d like to do or want and the other person’s response is “you don’t want to do that”. Hello? How do you know what I do or don not want? That makes me NUTS!

    I really can’t stand it when someone calls me and I listen to them share, but then when I want to share, they suddenly have to get off the phone. Ugh! What kind of relationship is that? I do want to hear all about what is going on with you, but if you care about me, you’ll want to know what’s going on with me, too. Right?

    Ok – I’ll now step slowly from the soapbox so as not to inflict damage upon me or anyone I care about.

    Hope the typing is correct – did this from the crackberry.

    Xoxo
    Dena

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